When Scott and I decided to move to New York City, I thought about pursuing work in the corporate world of social media. If not here and now, then where and when?
I have a degree in Mass Communications, a passion to market to the masses through online platforms, and I love communicating with others through social and interactive channels.
I’ve recently had a few interviews that promise growth in the opportunities to do so, and they excite me. What started as a way to document our wedding planning quickly turned into starting a blog about (mostly) healthy living, and I feel grateful to have inadvertently fallen into working in the world of social media, even if it’s for myself.
Over the last few years, however, I have grown a love and an intense dislike towards it.
As fun as it is to share everything that you’re doing with the world, it can be just as stimulating to unplug and take time away from editing, uploading, and hashtagging your every move.
So, where do we find a balance? And, if we want to share the good with the bad without publicly whining, how much of our lives should we post?
Longtime blog readers know to expect raw and honest topics from time to time. Overall, I prefer to keep a happy, uplifting tone to my posts, but every now and then I will grab a cup of coffee (or wine, let’s be real) and type out loud.
After a conversation on the topic with my mother and then another with my friend, I feel like it would be beneficial to discuss it here, too.
Social Media. It’s a crazy, online world of sharing, tracking, and marketing. It’s a wonderful way to keep in touch with friends and family near and far, and it can also help you plan your next party, workout, or meal. It’s the best.
Social Media. It’s a time-sucker and complete and utter distraction. It’s something that some let define them based on the number of likes, comments, or retweets they get on a post. It’s the worst.
As much as the world of social media thrills me, it also scares me. I consider myself lucky to have grown up in a generation that didn’t have smart phones in high school, where I was forced to make phone calls or meet someone face-to-face to chat with them. These days, it’s a small victory to get a teenager off of their phone for an hour.
If they’re not scrolling through their channels, they’re video chatting with friends. If they’re not posting photos or status updates, they’re revisiting pages to see how many likes appeared since they last logged on. In a sense, their popularity on social media defines their likability (or seemingly so to them) in life.
Do you let social media define you?
Sometimes I’ll catch myself aimlessly scrolling my news feeds for longer than I care to admit. And what’s worse, is most of the time it makes me upset as a result. I’ll spiral into a black hole of negative, self-shaming thoughts and start to seriously wonder what I’m doing with my life.
Why don’t we have kids yet?
Why don’t we have a house that we can fix up?
Why can’t we afford to travel the world?
Why am I just sitting here when I could be doing all of these cool things?
The list goes on and on … and it’s exhausting.
There have been several instances where I came very close to deleting all of my accounts, but that isn’t really an option when you run a blog. Yes, people subscribe to the posts, but a simple share of your post across social media channels is to be expected.
After the last few years of uncertainties and what feels like our lives being put on hold, uprooted, and completely re-tracked, maintaining an online presence has been a challenge. What keeps pulling me back to it is my love for sharing how-tos, go-tos, and inspiring things that I think others would appreciate.
(an ode to my Craft Ideas board on Pinterest)
Whenever I’m having a rough day, I try to remember why I post in the first place, and it’s simply because I enjoy sharing my life with people. I feel in my element documenting recipes and healthy eating tips. I truly love putting my workouts out there for others to try and challenge themselves.
And you know what? Emails from readers thanking me for what I do usually come at the perfect (and unexpected) time.
For me, social media is an extension of my blog and my life. Being present in life is most important to me, and if something that happens during my everyday adventures is something that I want to go into detail about, I will most likely write about it on the blog and then share my experiences via social media.
Social media gives me a way to market my work and document memories. Social media = share.
It’s tricky though. If you allow yourself to fall into The Comparison Trap or constantly find yourself struggling to keep up with the Joneses, that share will easily turn into compare.
You might experience feelings of socio-economic inferiority, and, in turn, you will let social media will define who you are.
Signing up for a Facebook account should come with a disclaimer. We’re not perfect, and we usually don’t post the bad with the good.
It’s important to remember that photos and stories shared on social media channels are only small glimpses into the reality of a person’s life. Yes, there are photos and times in our lives that are glamorous, but those photos could have been captured during the only ten good minutes or so out of an otherwise horrible day.
So, what happens next? We share the photo that depicts the seemingly perfect day with the perfect filter and witty hashtags. It’s just what we do.
If nothing else, remember that … we are more than what we appear to be on social media, and in no way does our social media “status” define us.
We get so preoccupied feeling unsatisfied by our lives compared to ours that we neglect to appreciate our lives for what they are. We easily forget the simple pleasures that take place every day and, instead, harp on what doesn’t. It’s such a backwards way of living!
The next time you find yourself reading blogs, scrolling social media, or getting disappointed about the number of likes or comments on something, ask yourself why. What exactly about that is upsetting, and why does it matter?
You are so much more than your likes on a news feed will ever be.
I appreciate you checking in today! As usual, I invite you to share your thoughts in the comments section below. I hope you can take this post as a reminder to take social platforms for what they are … social platforms.
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