Four years ago today, we became husband and wife.
It was the best day we’ve experienced together, and surely one that we will always cherish.
We exchanged vows, tore up the dance floor, and spent the night celebrating our love with loved ones. It was such a blast!
Three years ago today, we celebrated our 1 Year Wedding Anniversary.
You surprised me with the cutest Post-it scavenger hunt that led to a picnic lunch at the park. You took me to a fabulous restaurant for dinner, and we took a cheesy but necessary series of photos to honor the night.
Later on, we dug into the top layer of our wedding cake!
For living in the freezer for a year, it tasted pretty good.
You pulled a “Scott” and immediately wiped some on my face.
I obviously needed to retaliate.
Two years ago today, I was in the middle of auditioning for my last year as an NBA dancer.
You were out of town at a work conference, so we celebrated our anniversary early with a missed dinner reservation that turned into a last minute trip to Panera Bread on the way to a Gavin DeGraw concert.
I still forgive you for getting home late from work, and Panera will always make me happy.
One year ago today, we celebrated our anniversary in Texas with a group of crazy friends. I shared what I learned from our three years of marriage, and I still hold true to everything I wrote.
Today, we don’t have any plans. Well, we have plans to spend the day together and watch our wedding video (as we do every year), but that’s all I know. That’s also all I need.
Wow. Four years!
Some days feel like our wedding was a decade ago, while others feel like it was just yesterday when I first saw you down the aisle. You were crying, and it hit hard enough to make me focus on getting you past your ugly crying face and onto a smile for the remainder of our wedding ceremony.
Thank goodness, because I would have been a mess if I was the first one to bring out the tears.
And my ugly crying face is way more embarrassing than yours.
Four years ago, you surprised me with a live serenade of our song. I felt like the most important person in the world, and your unashamed love for me was obvious. I’ll never forget that feeling.
Four years ago, we were unsure of where life would would take us.
You were looking for a new job and possibly a new career, and I was working hard while waitressing to get us through. I quickly added teaching barre and blogging (both almost every day) into the mix, and the two of us barely stopped plugging away.
Fun date nights out turned into simple dinners and movies in. We did our best to stay on a tight budget, and our once extravagant birthday and Christmas gifts turned into things like foot rubs or a bouquet of flowers. The best part about it was the excuse to wear sweats on dates!
Four years ago, we didn’t know where we were going, but I knew we were going there together.
We were scared and frustrated, but we remained faithful to God and His plan.
Three years ago, we were still searching, but we were also confident that our next chapter would soon surface. Some days were better than others, but we knew answers were coming.
Two years ago, we were eight months into our new lives and residence in The Mitten.
It took me a while to adjust to the thought of living in the frigid temperatures, but eventually, I got there. And, I got an excuse to invest in a completely new wardrobe filled with cute winter accessories and fuzzy, warm materials.
I’m completely attached to my winter boots for several months out of the year, but I’m still waiting on that fireplace in our living room. The fact that my sister has two fireplaces in her Florida home while we have zero still amazes me.
I know I don’t always show it, but I am thankful for the time we have spent in the Metro Detroit area. I have learned a lot about myself, and I have witnessed that your need to provide for your family will never waiver. You work hard every single day, and you do whatever it takes to take care of us. We are so grateful for you.
We really have been through a lot, haven’t we?
From moving across the country and leaving all we knew to learning how to survive in the snow and dealing with deaths in the family, the last four years of my life have been the hardest.
We’ve had our highest of highs and lowest of lows.
Separate and together, we’ve been through some trying times. Just like any other couple, we fight, we make up, we get over it, and eventually, we laugh.
I will always love you, but that doesn’t mean I always have to like you. You know just what to do to get under my skin, and you do it. A lot. But then again, so do I. It’s a fun little game we play that keeps every day interesting and different.
You leave your clothes outside of the hamper, you continuously bring candy into the house, and you constantly steal my phone charger. I’ve learned to deal, and know I do things that irritate you, too. It is what it is, and I don’t expect things to change any time soon.
If there’s one thing that will never get old, it’s your love for life.
You want to experience every little thing that every little situation or place has to offer. I rarely get rest on our vacations because you want to find the best breakfast across town and see the funkiest night spot before we turn in.
You’ll try anything once, even if it’s slimy and staring right at you on your dinner plate. I’ll always admire that sense of adventure.
Today, we are still unclear about many things in our future. We aren’t sure when we will become parents, but it will happen when and if it’s supposed to. You’ve been so great and reassuring about that.
We don’t know what the next chapter in our lives looks like, or when it will begin, but we do know one thing, and it’s that we will both be here for each other. Just like before.
Four years ago today, I married you and took a different last name as soon as Pastor Dave announced us a Mr. and Mrs.
I wasn’t sure I wanted to (Heather Hesington is pretty long and, in my opinion, sounds a little too close to Jenna Jamison), but I did it.
I wanted to be Mrs. Hesington.
Four years later, I still haven’t updated the name on all of my frequent flyer miles, and it’s just a matter of time until you notice how many flights I haven’t actually received credit for. You claim I wait until the last minute to do the simplest of tasks, and you’re probably right.
It’s just something I do.
You, however, take care of things immediately. I’ll always admire that, too. You also take care of too much, too often. You straighten our pictures on the staircase walls, you adjust the position of our vases on our television stand, and you rearrange the coasters on our coffee table every time I fix them.
Those are just some things you do.
Looking back at the last four years of our lives makes me smile. We have a fun, loving relationship that is only getting stronger as time passes by.
We have good days, and I love those. We have bad days, and I learn from those. We have struggles, and we grow from those, too.
You are my very best friend. You are my rock. You are my partner in crime, and I will always have a fantastic life with you.
Thank you for being my husband, and here’s to another year of you being you, me being me, and us being us.
I love you, Scotty.
Happy Anniversary!
All wedding photos featured on this post are from Elegant Imagery. You can find more wedding photos, stories, and even watch our wedding video short on the Wedding Page. <3

Awe so sweet! Happy Anniversary!
Thank you Giselle!! xo
This was so sweet! My husband and I celebrated 4 years in May and it’s hard to believe the time goes so quickly. You two make a beautiful couple!
Happy Anniversary to you! Time sure does fly!
What a sweet post! Happy 4th anniversary to you guys! I love that you watch your wedding video each year!
Thanks, Bri! We weren’t even sure we wanted a wedding video, but I’m SO glad we hired a videographer at the last minute. It’s 11 minutes of our wedding day that we can relive any time <3
Happy anniversary! I loved hearing how you spent each year 🙂
And such a sweet letter to your husband.
liz @ sundays with sophie
Thank you Liz, it was neat to go back and re-read everything. <3
I LOVED this post, it’s so sweet & honest. I even teared up a little. Happy anniversary to you both.
Thanks, Jen! It was so great meeting you at IDEA!
Happy anniversary – what a cute post. You and your husband are so cute. I hope you have a wonderful day 🙂
Aw, you’re so sweet. Thank you Torry!
Such a beautiful post! To echo Jen above, it made me tear up a bit too. Congrats to you and Scott on 4 years!
Thank you, Lauren! xo
You guys are so cute! Happy Anniversary!!!
Aw, thanks so much Liz!
Happy Anniversary dear! XOXOXOXO
Thank you, Rebecca! <3
Happy anniversary! This is such a special post. I love the realness of it. Here’s to many more happy years : )
Thank you Jamie! xo
So cute! I love learning more about people’s love stories and it’s so sweet to see all that y’all have experienced and learned over these four years. Happy anniversary! 🙂
Thank you Lauren! <3
Oh my gosh, totally in love with this letter. Scott is an awesome guy, and the two of you have been through so much together. Here’s to many more wonderful years for the Hesingtons!! 🙂
Thanks Ashley! That we have. But, such is life. I appreciate your words and wonderful wishes! xo
Happy happy four years!!! <3
Thanks Erin, we are looking forward to dinner tonight to celebrate 🙂
I love how real and honest you are about your’s and Scott’s lives together. That’s what a really great and strong relationship is built on-knowing that neither one of you is perfect, being there for each other no matter what, and sticking it out through even the toughest moments! Happy Anniversary to you both!
Nobody is perfect, so you might as well admit that! For better or for worse, right? Life is a roller coaster… it’s been awesome having a partner through it all. <3 Thank you!
Congratulations to you both, and so many happy anniversaries, past, present, and future. I love reading about your antics, and having met you, I will love reading about them even more! People aren’t perfect, but you do the damn best that you can–and you can be perfect for each other.
Hehe, thanks Susie! I couldn’t agree more. So great hanging with you!
SO sweet! It caught me quite off guard to see you blonde too! I wish you many more years of love and happiness!
Hehe, I’ve pretty much been every color under the sun… blonde, honey, light brown, dark red, red, brown, etc. Gotta love changing it up for my dancing years!
So sweet, Happy Anniversary!
This is such a sweet post–happy anniversary to you both and here’s to many more years!
Thanks so much, Erin!
This is so awesome. Happy anniversary!!
Thanks Hannah! I can’t believe it’s already been 4 years!
I love this!! Happy anniversary 🙂
Happy anniversary! I usually never comment but after reading your post I was so touched by your love & thoughtfulness for your husband.
Aw, thank you Regina. I appreciate your readership and thank you for commenting!
Awww – Happy anniversary you guys! <3 I love how you really do keep it real. To many, many more! 🙂
Haha, I always do. Thanks Tanya!
This is beautiful!
This is beautiful Heather! Happy Anniversary!
Thanks so much, Chrissy!
Beautiful words about a beautiful relationship! Congrats on 4 years! Happy Anniversary!
Thank you Kristin!
This is so wonderful! Sweet and true . Happy late anniversary!
Thanks Jess! <3