About a year ago, I shared a reel about meeting my younger self for coffee.
At the time, it was just a short reflective piece … one of those thoughts that randomly lands in your heart and feels too meaningful not to share. But even after posting it, I remember thinking, there’s so much more I want to say about this someday.
And now I’m finally sitting down to write it out and press publish.
Full transparency, I still don’t have life “figured out,” and I probably never will.
(Do any of us really?!)
There’s so much in our everyday experiences that’s outside of our control, yet we spend so much of our time feeling pressure to control all of it anyway. Our schedules. Our careers. Our appearance. Our routines. Our kids. Our future. Our happiness. Other people’s opinions. The endless noise online telling us who we should be, what we should be doing, and how far behind we are if we aren’t doing it perfectly.
It’s exhausting.
And while we’re being honest, the younger version of me lived almost entirely in that exhaustion for a long time.
When I imagine meeting her for coffee now, I can see her so clearly.
She rushes into the café distracted and overwhelmed, barely noticing the warmth of the space around her. Her mind is already onto the next thing before she’s even fully arrived. She’s carrying a very large to-go coffee and some sort of “healthy” grab-and-go snack because slowing down long enough for an actual breakfast feels impossible. She’s surviving on little sleep, juggling multiple jobs, overtraining at the gym, constantly trying to prove herself, and somehow convinced herself that burnout is just the price you pay for ambition.
She sits down and asks me the question I used to think I’d eventually have the answer to:
“So … did we figure it all out?”
And I laugh a little before telling her:
“No. We didn’t.”
But what I wish she understood (and what I’m only now learning myself), is that peace was never hiding on the other side of having it all figured out.
It was waiting in the letting go.
Somewhere over the last several years (and especially through motherhood), my perspective started changing. Not overnight – and definitely not perfectly – but I started noticing slowly, quietly, and in the middle of ordinary moments that I would’ve rushed through before.
Motherhood has challenged me in ways I never expected. It requires an incredible amount of selflessness, patience, flexibility, and sacrifice. There are days that feel chaotic and overwhelming, and days where I still catch myself slipping back into old patterns of pressure and perfectionism.
But becoming a mom also forced me to slow down in a way I probably never would have on my own … and maybe that was part of the point all along.
Because when you experience life alongside a child, you start noticing things differently. My son moves through the world with curiosity instead of urgency. He observes everything. He finds joy in the smallest moments, and he sees the good in people before the bad.
He’s fully present in a way adults slowly train themselves out of over time.
Watching him has made me realize how much of life I used to miss while chasing productivity, perfection, or some imaginary finish line where I thought happiness would finally begin.
I spent years treating healthy living like something I had to “earn” through exhaustion and extremes. I thought discipline meant constantly pushing harder. I wore burnout like a badge of honor because slowing down felt lazy, unproductive, or somehow not enough.
Now, healthy living looks *completely* different to me.
- It looks like being present enough to enjoy my coffee while it’s still hot. (Okay, I’m still working on this one, but I’m doing much better!)
- Moving my body because I love it, not because I’m punishing it or want/need to look a certain way.
- Taking walks without having to track every little step, and not caring about the calorie burn of the workout I’m doing.
- Letting go of unrealistic expectations.
- Protecting my peace a little more.
- Showing up imperfectly, and appreciating the beautiful mess in front of me instead of constantly searching for what’s next.
Most importantly, it looks like living more in the real world and less inside online highlight reels and carefully curated personas that are so easy to compare ourselves to.
The more distance I get from the girl I used to be, the more compassion I have for her. She was trying so, so hard. She thought if she could just achieve enough, control enough and perfect enough, she’d finally feel calm and confident.
But the truth is … the calmer and happier version of me didn’t emerge from finally mastering life. She emerged from loosening her grip on it. (Praying and therapy helps, too – hehe.)
And while I still don’t have it all figured out more than a year after sharing that original reel, I think I’m finally okay with that now. Because the older I get, the more I realize life was never meant to be fully controlled or perfectly optimized.
It was meant to be lived, we were meant to go through all of the seasons we’re dealt, and we’re meant to give ourselves grace throughout the process and messiness.
So yeah, I’m still *all* about this trend, and I can’t wait to share more stories from our coffee dates with you in the future.
For now, I’d love to know … what’s something you’d tell your younger self if you met with her/him for coffee today? (Drop it in the comments!)
Be well out there, and thank you so much for reading today.
xo, Heather
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